I got married in September. I wasn't in the biggest hurry to go and change my last name. My idenity is tied to my last name, no one calls me by my first name- My last name is who I am, what I am known by, and a form of security. The day I got married people were already asking me what they should start calling me, or if they are allowed to continue to call me "Z" or "ZIm" or "Zimmmmmerererer" or "Z-funk"- But of course my Husband is Macho and doesn't care about my struggle with giving up my last name. I love my Hubby and I am honored to take his last name, but give a women sometime to part ways with her Idenity.
But here's the main reason I took so long to do this- Because it's a lot of damn work. I thought to myself why the hell do we have to take time off work and endure everything that is the opposite of excting- the DMV and the SS office.But WAIT your not done, you have to go a month without identification, so there goes having wine at dinner, you have to change your name on every credit card you have- which requires 20 min wait times on the phone talking to India or at the bank sitting there while every person you've talked to needs to get approval on the computer from somone else to access or change anything. Then you have to change your card number on every automatic bill pay- Then change your name on all your bills, change your insurance's, make up a new signature, change your checks, your contact information, your voting registration, what else?
Why do women have to do this, why can't men? Because I know for a fact- that if my Husband had to do this there would only be two situations that could occur. Ethier I would have to change everything for him, or he would tell me to screw myself that he is not changing his last name because he doesn't have time to. Double standards to say the least. haha the joys of being the women in the relationship
How far have I gotten with this ridiculous process- Just the DMV and one Card. I wish it could all be done online, I would have been done months ago!
US already thinking CRAP, Why is this considered OUR day when we are suppose to please everyone else? This process is a lot of work, very appreciative, a beautiful day, but Eloping would have been much more "practical"
But here's the main reason I took so long to do this- Because it's a lot of damn work. I thought to myself why the hell do we have to take time off work and endure everything that is the opposite of excting- the DMV and the SS office.But WAIT your not done, you have to go a month without identification, so there goes having wine at dinner, you have to change your name on every credit card you have- which requires 20 min wait times on the phone talking to India or at the bank sitting there while every person you've talked to needs to get approval on the computer from somone else to access or change anything. Then you have to change your card number on every automatic bill pay- Then change your name on all your bills, change your insurance's, make up a new signature, change your checks, your contact information, your voting registration, what else?
Why do women have to do this, why can't men? Because I know for a fact- that if my Husband had to do this there would only be two situations that could occur. Ethier I would have to change everything for him, or he would tell me to screw myself that he is not changing his last name because he doesn't have time to. Double standards to say the least. haha the joys of being the women in the relationship
How far have I gotten with this ridiculous process- Just the DMV and one Card. I wish it could all be done online, I would have been done months ago!
Too funny and OH so true!! I didnt change mine until 14months after I was married. Like you, I took pride in my last name and because it isnt a common last name, I felt that it gave me a certain identity. Not that I hate my new last name, it's just kind of, shall I say, "boring". My husband really wanted me to change it, so because I love him, I did. So after 1 hour at the Social Security office, 2 hours at the DMV, I am officially a LUNT. Now I am half way into changing all of my credit cards, so let's see how long this will take!
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